Psychological Impotence – Sex & Your Mind
If you’re affected by impotence how can you tell if it’s from physical or psychological causes? About 10 to 20 per cent of impotence is caused by emotional and psychological factors – like stress, personal trauma (divorce, job loss, death of your beloved), relationship conflict, performance anxiety or depression.
Psychological impotence can be a long term state, embedded in your life because of early childhood sexual abuse or trauma, or it can develop suddenly as a reaction to a current situation.
And sometimes your impotence may have a mix of physical and psychological causes; severe stress can for example reduce testosterone levels dramatically, killing sex drive and ability to get erections.
There are four simple steps you can take to assess if your impotence is caused by psychological or physical factors:
Step 1 in Diagnosing Psychological Impotence
Ask Yourself: Did It Happen Suddenly or Gradually?
It’s more like to be psychological impotence if it develops suddenly; organic or physically caused impotence tends to develop gradually.
Step 2 in Diagnosing Psychological Impotence
Ask Yourself: Do You Still Experience Spontaneous Erections When Sleeping?
It’s more like to be psychological impotence if you are still experiencing spontaneous erections at night and in the early morning. Research has shown that sexually healthy men experience 4-6 episodes of erection lasting 10-15 minutes in the period of fast sleep. General duration of spontaneous erections during night makes up 20% of the whole period of sleep. When impotence is physically caused these spontaneous erections often stop occurring.
Step 3 to Diagnosing Psychological Impotence
Ask Yourself: Are You Experiencing Relationship Problems?
If you are aware you are experiencing relationship problems, or else are under extremely heavy stress for other reasons, there is a good chance your impotence is related to emotional factors. If you are experiencing normal sex drive and ejaculation, but just cannot maintain an erection, it’s likely your impotence has physical causes.
Step 4 to Diagnosing Psychological Impotence
Ask Yourself: Is Impotence Situational or Permanent?
This may not be quite as hard and fast as a rule, but it does give an indication. If you experience impotence only in some situations or with some people, it is more likely to be influenced by psychological or emotional issues. If it is a more general experience regardless of situation, it is likely to be physically caused. However there could be some exceptions to this as a guideline – for example if you are a heavy user of drugs or alcohol and notice an inability to perform after you’ve been indulging, common sense would lead you to conclude this “situational” impotence is related to physical causes.
Three Key Causes of Psychological Impotence
1) Emotional Stress
Emotional stress can suppress sex drive, reduce joy and excitement in your life, and make it difficult to sustain quality relationships. It also affects your body physically by causing fatigue and lowering hormone levels including testosterone and neurochemicals needed to get an erection.
Severe stress can produce “adrenal burnout,” raise blood pressure and elevate blood sugar levels, creating a host physical and psychological problems. It reduces “feel good” endorphins and turns minor problems into major obstacles.
Other emotional disturbances that can lead to psychological impotence include:
2) Performance Anxiety
Anxiety severe enough to disrupt normal erections is a common problem for many men, particularly younger men, although secondary performance anxiety affects some men in later life.
Many different kinds of worries can lead to sexual performance anxiety, including:
- Fear you won’t satisfy your partner in bed.
- Self consciousness about your body – you feel overweight or think your penis is too small. One global survey showed Australians worried about their weight and how it affected their sex life more than any other nation, although at the same time they secretly hoped their partner would lose weight.
- Relationship tension which deflates your self confidence and arouses fears of rejection.
- Anxiety about not lasting long enough and coming too early (men) or not reaching orgasm or responding adequately and disappointing the man (women).
These anxieties cause your body to launch a response called “fight or flight” stress hormones which shut down bloodflow supply to the penis, making it difficult to develop a full erection.
3) Relationship Problems
Modern marriage can be stressful for men, as sex expert Bettina Ardnt described in a recent Sydney Morning Herald which argued men’s needs, wants and desires are being ignored in many relationships.
Nigel Marsh suggested in Fat, Forty and Fired, (Piatkus Books) that many Australian men are sexually frustrated because of their wives’ reluctance to have sex. Get rejected often enough and you either turn off or move on.
If relationship tension is destroying your sex drive and resulting in psychological impotence, therapy or counselling may be the answer.
In some cases, clinical psychological therapy may be necessary, but often less formal counselling and therapy can work wonders.
Solutions for Psychological Impotence
If you believe your sex life is being destroyed by psychological impotence caused it’s important to take steps to address the issues affecting good sexual health and relationships. Take stock of your life, and examine what could be affecting your emotional security and peace of mind.
Positive steps to address psychological impotence include:
- Balancing work commitments and general life
- Maintaining good relationships with friends and family
- Stress relief – good physical exercise, meditation, prayer, or yoga
- Generally taking time to relax and ‘smell the roses’
Herbal Ignite & Drugs for Psychological Impotence
Erection drugs alone are not effective in treating psychological impotence, although increasingly they are being used in conjunction with counselling with good success – perhaps because tackling the underlying emotional issues at the same time as giving a man an aid to performing with more confidence works well together.
Herbal Ignite is an all-natural herbal impotence supplement which contains several herbs that support emotional as well as physical health. Avena sativa in Herbal Ignite has been used traditionally as a nerve tonic and for treatment of drug and nicotine addiction, so is beneficial for stress relief; horny goat weed improves sex drive, and tribulus terrestris works on lifting testosterone levels, confidence and energy.
You might consider tackling your psychological impotence on two levels – by adopting some of the recommendations for changing your patterns and habits, while at the same time giving yourself a physical boost from an erectile treatment.