Impotence Counselling for Relationship Problems
Men’s reluctance to acknowledge problems with impotence can lead to separation and divorce – but they are avoidable if partners are willing to take impotence counselling to sort out health issues and improve their relationship.
Sex is always emotional as well as physical and even if your impotence is physically caused, resolving the personal impacts of medical or drug related impotence always involves using your brain and opening your heart.
Some of the men interviewed by Sydney sex expert Bettina Ardnt for What Men Want – in Bed said their unwillingness to face up to impotence led directly to divorce – something they regretted when they realised the chain of events that led to breaking up.
Admitting Impotence a Good Start
Rather than admit impotence is a problem, many men avoid contact, going to bed later or feigning sleep so they won’t have to admit they are impotent.
Their partner feels rejected, generally taking the message from his behaviour that “he isn’t interested any more”. And just getting an impotence pill may not be enough to restore good sex if you’ve grown apart in the meantime.
To avoid these kinds of problems its best to face up to impotence and start talking. If it’s got to the stage where you and your partner feel at a loss on what to do next, there are a range of impotence counselling services available around Australia, starting with Relationships Australia.
Where To Get Impotence Counselling
Relationships Australia offers family and relationship counselling as well as a range of specialist counselling services.
Most of their counselling services are conducted face-to-face, but they also offer online and telephone counselling for people in remote areas (in some states) and for those with special needs, and some ‘farm gate’ services are provided at clients’ homes for remote rural clients.
To find out more please call 1300 364 277 and you will be connected to your local Relationships Australia service for help with impotence counselling and a wide range of other services like parenting help.
Impotence Australia offers telephone counselling nation-wide via an 1800 number as well as providing an inexpensive intern-based personal counselling service supervised by experienced professionals in Sydney.
Phones to the Freephone number 1800 800 614 (Sydney 02 9280 0084) are answered by trained sex therapists who can assist with men’s or women’s sexual concerns. Or you can email firstname.lastname@example.org with your queries.
MensLine Australia is a professional telephone and online support, information and referral service, helping men to deal with relationship problems in a practical and effective way.
Help is available 24 hours a day seven days a week on Freephone 1300 78 99 78
Do It Yourself Counselling
If your impotence is related to complex personal issues – if you were sexually abused as a child or have a severe depressive illness, or if you feel conflict about your sexual identity, then you will most likely benefit from face to face impotence counselling from a qualified therapist.
If you are wanting to make your relationship more intimate, loving and fun, then there’s a lot you can do to help yourself.
Psychologist Richard Wiseman’s very different type of self -help book – Rip It Up, The Radically New Way to Changing Your Life (Pan Macmillan 2012) draws on a “dazzling array of scientific evidence to show that simple actions represent the quickest, easiest and most powerful way to change how you think and feel.
The Dice Man Self Help Exercise
Richard Wiseman’s strategy for “bringing back the magic” for couples who’ve been together for a long time is called The Dice Man, after a novel of the same name in which a psychiatrist made important decisions on the throw of a dice.
The Dice Man exercise comes in two parts; the first part should be completed by the partners separately.
The Dice Man – Part One:
Take a look at each of the following activities and circle the ones you find exciting:
Go for a walk in the countryside Go for a trip on a speedboat
Go and see a live concert Eat snails
Play sport Fly a kite
Plan a trip or holiday Go on a long car journey
Go on a shopping trip Bet on a horse race
Go to the beach Kiss on a fairground ride
Create some kind of artwork Place a pin on a map and go there
Rearrange/redecorate your home Enter a pub quiz
Go to a sports event Learn some circus skills
Go to a new restaurant Go canoeing
Go to a lecture or talk Arm wrestle
Go camping, hiking or boating Dive or jump off a high board
Invite friends around for a meal Sleep out under the stars
Learn to windsurf Fly in a seaplane
Go dancing Go on a long car journey
Visit a fair or zoo Write a love letter
Get a massage/go to a health club Ride on a huge roller coaster
Go to the gym Go paintballing
Plan a major purchase Travel on a hot air balloon
Visit a museum or art exhibition Swim with the dolphins
Go to see a film Do a parachute jump
Now list two other activities you find exciting if there is something you like that isn’t on this list.
The Dice Man – Part Two
Sit down with your partner and look at your ratings and answers. Select the six activities that you both find exciting and write them down, numbered 1 to 6.
Now you’ll do like the central character in the novel The Dice Man – make decisions based on the roll of a dice.
Find a dice, roll it and read out the corresponding chosen activity. Whatever number comes up, that’s your “bonding” outing for you both. Organise and share this activity in the next couple of weeks and repeat the process every fortnight.
Impotence Counselling – Conclusions
You may think an exercise like The Dice Man hasn’t got much to do with impotence counselling – but if you are willing to try it you might be surprised. Sex is so much more than getting an erection. If both partners are feeling engaged and close, the chances of fireworks in the bedroom are that much greater.
And there is plenty of scientific evidence to show variety is the spice of life when it comes to putting the park back in your sex life.